Have You Kept Your New Year’s Resolution?

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By Bonnie Moehle –

Two months have passed since we set our goals resolving to do something different this year. Although we always start with good, clear intentions, many of us, in a very short period of time, are right back to our old habits. Why is it so hard to keep our resolutions, and what can we do this year to be sure to make permanent changes?

First, understand that a resolution is about changing a behavior, and that changing a behavior is extremely difficult if we don’t examine and change the underlying cause of the behavior we’re hoping to let go of. All of our behaviors are the direct result of how we think and what we think about. As Henry Ford once said, “If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you’re right”.

If you want to make and maintain real changes this year, start with a little self-examination. What do you say to yourself about your abilities and your life? Are your thoughts in alignment with what you want to achieve or do they oppose what you are hoping to achieve. “I can’t” or “I’ll never” are thoughts that drive behaviors that hold you in your old patterns.

Once you are catching your thoughts, change them to match your desired outcome. Use statements such as, “I am successful.” My clients often tell me that they feel as if they are lying to themselves when they first start to do this. But, know that thoughts are like seeds. If you plant a marigold seed you will get a marigold. If you want to grow a petunia then you have to plant a petunia seed. Hold the thought that grows into the behavior you wish to achieve

In addition, hold a vision. See yourself achieving your goals. See it like a mini mind-movie, with feeling, as if you are there and as if there is no other possibility. Your thoughts and visions will drive your behaviors. New thoughts and visions will create new behaviors, effortlessly. Be diligent and persistent. If you do, you will start to experience changes in the choices you make and the way you behave.

Finally, celebrate every success along the way, even the small ones. The belief that beating yourself up will make you better and more motivated is a bunch of bunk. It only serves to lower your energy and decrease your motivation. Celebrating the successes keeps you excited about what you are accomplishing and motivates you to keep going. As for the bumps in the road or the hiccups, they are opportunities, not failures. They are there to help keep you on track and let you know when you need to try something new. Celebrate them as well. They help you to grow.

Examine your thoughts. Are they in alignment with what you want to achieve this year? If not, change them, hold a vision and celebrate your successes, and this year, you will achieve your dreams.


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