Overcoming The Fears Of Interviewing And Public Speaking


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By Bonnie Moehle –

What do interviewing and public speaking have in common? They both bring out some of our greatest fears, which can make us very uncomfortable. To overcome those fears, let’s take a look at the causes and some solutions to help us get through these situations we dread so much.

There are two major reasons why we feel so uncomfortable when we go for an interview or speak publicly. One is because we are afraid of being judged – we are placing so much importance on what other people think about us. The other is because we are attached to an outcome – we really want the end result to meet up to an expectation.

What can we do to turn these experiences around? To overcome the fear of judgment there’s only one answer, we have to love ourselves from the inside out. Approval from others, validation from friends or acquiring possessions are all outside things that give us a temporary feeling of confidence, but not the confidence needed to overcome a fear of judgment. Internal self-love comes from a regular diet of focusing on our inner strengths – the part of us that is always there no matter what is happening on the outside. When we focus on our strengths regularly, we know who we are. This allows us to show up more authentically in an interview or speech, which makes us more likeable.

Letting go of an attachment to the outcome stems from a mindset of trust that everything is exactly as it is supposed to be – that nothing happens to us, it happens for us. It is a mindset that trusts that all we can do is be the best we can in each moment. It is about letting go of control and simply holding a vision of success. This mindset leads to less awkwardness and more comfort during a speech or an interview, resulting in more natural presentations and better outcomes.

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